Self care tips
One of my clients has shared custody and says she feels guilty if she takes any time for herself when she has her kids, suggestions?
"Get to the bottom of the guilt/worth issues."
"She cannot be a good mother if she does not look after herself."
"We know that, but that is not what she needs to hear... She feels like a bad mother already."
"Oh, ok. Perhaps she gets a babysitter when they are asleep so she can spend time with the kids and then have time to herself when they are asleep and don’t need her attention."
Good suggestions, all good points, it's a matter of taking care of herself, she would like to do some meditation, etc., and is struggling with creating the time.
"When something is important to you, you make the time. Meditation can be done early morning or when the kids are in bed. When there is a will, there is a way."
"Exactly. The question remains for her to explore why she cannot give that to herself. That time/space for normal healthy self care. To ask for help or to say no to the demands of parenting for a few min a day?"